I understand that there are many differing viewpoints within the adoptive community and I believe that sharing them, when it is done respectfully--especially about something as raw and sensitive as this topic was, is a learning opportunity for everyone. I am an adoptive mom who is part of a very open adoption, and therefore, I am proudly an advocate for adoptive parents and birth parents who are working together to provide the most loving, stable, and healthy environment for their children. And while differences of opinion are a natural and normal and healthy part of life, it is difficult for me to entertain them on this site when they are mean-spirited and cutting.
So again, thank you to those people who were able engage in a conversation in this space in a productive and kind way--even if we all don't agree with everything we have to say and even when every detail can't be shared. And most importantly, thank you for the prayers for peace and support you have extended towards my friend.
When I can, I will relay how this situation turns out. As you can imagine there are so many details and things always take longer than one would hope. But in the mean-time, those prayers for peace and guidance and for Asher are coveted without end.
One of my favorite songs is below. There's no video for it. The words speak for themselves.