However, we did have this one couple in our lives who shared intimate details with us about birth parents. They were extremely open regarding the feelings of birth parents, the struggles they face, what they hope for their babies, what makes them happy about their babies, what makes them sad, what they want in a set of adoptive parents, and the hopes and dreams that birth parents may have for a relationship with adoptive parents. We counted on them to give us insider information to the other side. We ate up everything they had to say. It was gospel. We wanted to do right by our potential birth parents because we wanted to 'do adoption' the best we could.
My brother-in-law and his wife. Pete and Marci. Birthparents. Everyday heroes. Selfless.
Yesterday marked the 18th anniversary that their first child was born. An amazing little boy that they loved enough to know that they were not ready to give him the life he deserved....they weren't ready to be the parents for him that they knew all kids desperately needed. They were young.....but oh so wise.
They're married now and have three more amazing babies who call them mommy and daddy. And my husband and I couldn't be more proud to know them and call them family. They were invaluable to us as we walked through the adoption process and made me love birth-parents before I'd even met Georgia's.
And the fact is not lost on me that one day, they quite possibly could be exactly what Georgia needs as she begins to understand her own adoption and what that means. I know that if she wants to fully grasp how birth parents make that decision, and how much they love children and that's why they do it--Pete and Marci will be there for her. Whatever they'll tell her, it will be perfect. I know that. To have the other side of adoption represented in our family, for her, is another piece of our adoption story that I believe was written by God eighteen years ago, before she was even conceived, before any of us even knew each other.
Pete and Marci. Birthparents. They make our world a better place. They change the world for one child. They give adoptive parents the greatest gift.
Thank you Pete and Marci. Thanks for teaching me how life-giving birthparents are. Thanks for giving me one more reason to love them like crazy and thanks for working to build a culture of adoption in this country. We need more of you. A lot more.