tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post6841228512270045916..comments2024-03-26T06:02:03.493-04:00Comments on Pink Shoes: What does openness mean to me? maggiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-63422886264705578322013-03-11T02:17:29.357-04:002013-03-11T02:17:29.357-04:00this is really beautiful! I especially love the la...this is really beautiful! I especially love the last sentence.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-90116314016901113542013-03-05T06:40:17.784-05:002013-03-05T06:40:17.784-05:00Beautiful, Maggie! I share the same thoughts! What...Beautiful, Maggie! I share the same thoughts! What a beautiful story! BumbersBumblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15804403640550027122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-31499606990034081362013-03-04T17:13:59.364-05:002013-03-04T17:13:59.364-05:00Your counselor is right. There's just a story...Your counselor is right. There's just a story. This one happens to be Georgia's. Rae's is Rae's. And I know that if we do adoption again there will be another story that we're a part of and it will look different than Georgia's--maybe a lot different, maybe a little--we just have no control over that. I think the only thing we can do is make the most of what we do have control over or what it seems like we have control over. I have so many friends who don't have open relationships with their child's birthparents for a variety of reasons and it doesn't diminish how amazing their children's stories are. There are parts of Georgia's story that will be hard to explain to her too--it's not all roses and sunshine--it's just that so often in a public space you have to choose wisely what you write and I have to think about my daughter, when she becomes a reader and is really cognizant of this space and what's been written here. <br /><br /> I'm so happy for you Beth! I think about you so often and am so honored to know you and so thankful that you contacted me! I love knowing your story too and everyday I'm just so in awe of how obviously God works in adoptions. maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-4113433749053845742013-03-04T15:49:00.048-05:002013-03-04T15:49:00.048-05:00It’s great what you have, and I’m so glad that you...It’s great what you have, and I’m so glad that you cherish it. When I first started reading your blog, I was inspired and encouraged by how you spoke of openness. But now we have Rae, our most wonderful five and a half week (already!) old daughter. And now reading about how amazing and beneficial openness is makes me sad. Because we don’t have it. What were we to do, say no to the situation? No way! I can’t even breath when I think of it, of not having her. She is so, so special. But I am sad, mostly for her. At our first post-placement visit, we talked to our counselor about it. We asked for advice on how we might share a less than perfect story with Rae. Our counselor stopped us and said we first need to get over the idea that there is a perfect story. There’s just a story. Rae’s story. So, I’m trying to start there. I’m trying to let go of what I thought it would be, hoped it would be.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217975509842881476noreply@blogger.com