tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post8505914759979700658..comments2024-03-26T06:02:03.493-04:00Comments on Pink Shoes: Pacifist Parenting.maggiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-15482919867255547082014-09-25T10:13:59.219-04:002014-09-25T10:13:59.219-04:00Yep--It's definitely a balancing act. Like I ...Yep--It's definitely a balancing act. Like I said, there is no way we can fight them all--nor should we. But sometimes I feel like many parents aren't fighting any and they are fooling themselves into thinking that kids will magically learn to be kind and respectful and hard workers without ever having to do anything small to get up that mountain. And I think if we can reprogram our brains a little bit to realize that a lot of times the "small stuff" equals the big stuff in the end we'll end up in a good spot--and so will our kids. But yes--they can't all be fought (or won), so a "top five" list is a good start for me. maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-31325289241793843492014-09-25T09:16:18.853-04:002014-09-25T09:16:18.853-04:00Good stuff! It's as much a mark of maturity to...Good stuff! It's as much a mark of maturity to know when to ask for help as it is to be the one to help. It took me a long time to learn that lesson, I still struggle with it as an adult.<br /><br />As for the 'pick my battles' conversation? I cringe.... I was one of those first time moms, so so so long ago (eeek!) that did NOT know what battles were really worth focusing upon. And I frustrated myself and my sons. Time was the great equalizer for me - I have learned so much and being part of the adoptive community, dealing with kids from hard starts to life has been so eye-opening. There are far more important things for me to "fight through" for my kids. But notice I said, "FOR" my kids. That's been the big difference for me, I think. I'm not fighting with them over little stuff. I'm fighting WITH them for healing and growth and connection. It's been a great re-focus AND has yielded a healthier relationship with my bio kids too.<br /><br />GREAT post. GREAT solution to your kiddo's needs. Thanks for sharing!The Gang's Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12478478224173323982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-22954730137044033532014-09-24T21:02:26.635-04:002014-09-24T21:02:26.635-04:00Love, Love this! I couldn't agree more!Love, Love this! I couldn't agree more! Nicole @ Pencil Skirts and Noodle Necklaceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02216003782039779761noreply@blogger.com