tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post8057989301112867048..comments2024-03-26T06:02:03.493-04:00Comments on Pink Shoes: Public Enemy #1.maggiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-52766181330454512892013-02-05T12:14:58.999-05:002013-02-05T12:14:58.999-05:00Amen. Again. It's amazing all of the things th...Amen. Again. It's amazing all of the things that you learn through hindsight! :)Jewlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04727641332169335552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-65641117420513892372013-01-12T23:40:23.373-05:002013-01-12T23:40:23.373-05:00DH and I chose to move towards adoption rather the...DH and I chose to move towards adoption rather then seeking out fertility treatments. About a year into our wait (this is not ever mentioned in my blog) we attempted IUI because I qualified for a free study that provided three "free" rounds of IUI. When we circumvented fertility treatments I had doubted the choice (but it is what we had agreed to prior to getting married- no fertility treatment). The study was too good to pass up and we were already waiting so we had nothing to lose (except my sanity which I found out later). During the last cycle of the study they were debating of having me wait another month before doing the IUI which meant the process would be a month longer I begged them just to do it even if it wouldn't work. I wanted OUT of the study. I didn't want IUI anymore - I just wanted to wait for my baby. At the end of the study I of course would have loved to have been pregnant. The lady (who was pregnant) and running the study was apologetic but I looked her straight in the eye and told her she had nothing to apologize for - I could have a baby tomorrow. It was another 5 months... but I won the baby lottery- she is perfect.<br /><br />I'm open about our infertility with friends/family. My best advice is always to have a plan- when do you stop? The doctors will keep going, keep giving you hope, keep telling you the chances. 1% chance sounds achievable when YOU could be that 1 in 100. I'm glad we skipped fertility treatments initially and wished we had not done the study. Though I probably would always have wondered if IUI would have worked had we just tried it- now I know.<br /><br />Great post :)TTABabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10448579844692674801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-33486568657460356252013-01-07T17:38:17.275-05:002013-01-07T17:38:17.275-05:00This is so well-written. As an adoption social wor...This is so well-written. As an adoption social worker, I've often encouraged people in the process by letting them know that, in retrospect, they wouldn't wish things different. Your post sums up what I've been trying to tell them.Addisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732176527883570863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-3036176889119437572012-07-06T15:25:04.922-04:002012-07-06T15:25:04.922-04:00Beth--don't ever feel guilty for your thoughts...Beth--don't ever feel guilty for your thoughts while going through this process. I thought them all. And even after the baby games--there are thoughts that you can't believe you're thinking and it's OKAY. This is so hard, and not something that you grow up thinking about. You grow up thinking, I'll get married and have a baby and it will rock.....and instead you grow up and can't have a baby and have to learn how to navigate adoption and it's totally foreign--at least it was for us. Never beat yourself up!maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-86022932612644961912012-07-05T18:36:04.020-04:002012-07-05T18:36:04.020-04:00I know it’s a few entries back, but I’ve been mean...I know it’s a few entries back, but I’ve been meaning to say thanks for posting this. So, thanks (way late)! ;) We’re in the waiting phase of adoption, and I wish it was always “rainbows” for me. But it’s not. (And then I feel guilty that it’s not.) I fight fear and doubt all the time. And I pray that I’ll be safely on the other side someday. You are so obviously and joyously on the other side, and it’s wonderful. But it’s nice for me to know that you weren’t always there; that you had some of the same ugly doubts and fears that I have right now. So, again, thanks. I’ve actually been thinking of writing my own post about the doubts and fears that I battle, but… I’m afraid, I guess. Ha! Ok, I’ll do it soon… (documentingbeth.blogspot.com)Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217975509842881476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-21146070479678849702012-05-15T07:00:34.955-04:002012-05-15T07:00:34.955-04:00I always feel the same way about the feeling bad. ...I always feel the same way about the feeling bad. It is just one of those things that can hardly be described unless you've lived it and I'm so beyond the moon that I have!maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-67602058692888438702012-05-14T22:48:51.335-04:002012-05-14T22:48:51.335-04:00I truly loved this story. I, too, am an adoptive ...I truly loved this story. I, too, am an adoptive mom and proud of it! When they placed my son in my arms for the first time, I felt so "lucky" to be his mom. I often feel bad for other people that haven't adopted because I think they're missing out on such a wonderful experience. I'll definitely be following your blog. I love it! Thank you!!!Mary Laceynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-349177538145939712012-04-21T21:14:43.544-04:002012-04-21T21:14:43.544-04:00I'm an Open Adoption Blogger and saw your link...I'm an Open Adoption Blogger and saw your link on the We Blog for Adoption group on FB. <br /><br />I loved your post!! So true in so many ways and I found myself nodding my head and agreeing with so much!!<br /><br />Awesome post!! I'm going to follow you if you don't mind!!!Cat's Litterboxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15383480756748575738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-66899427614606956662012-04-21T10:52:50.307-04:002012-04-21T10:52:50.307-04:00Thanks so much Amber! And thanks for the follow--...Thanks so much Amber! And thanks for the follow--can't wait to check out your site!maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-90188488992287095442012-04-21T10:52:14.311-04:002012-04-21T10:52:14.311-04:00Thanks Kelly!Thanks Kelly!maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-34723054793062496372012-04-21T02:28:17.155-04:002012-04-21T02:28:17.155-04:00Absolutely, absolutely, absolutely!!!! I just lov...Absolutely, absolutely, absolutely!!!! I just love this post. From one adoptive Momma to another - thank you!! I am now following you. :)<br /><br />http://www.lifeinthelastfrontier.comAmberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07772427117417427298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-36307651366717055962012-04-20T23:09:54.085-04:002012-04-20T23:09:54.085-04:00Beautiful post!Beautiful post!Krisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10952325671353127531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-59731161176938688882012-04-20T18:26:35.305-04:002012-04-20T18:26:35.305-04:00Crave it indeed. Such a great post - one that I th...Crave it indeed. Such a great post - one that I think more people need to read. Consider it pinned. :)<br />KellyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04910258636674801379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-31187445480115025962012-04-13T00:06:15.413-04:002012-04-13T00:06:15.413-04:00Thanks Mindee! I hope your sister can relate! An...Thanks Mindee! I hope your sister can relate! And how awesome to have two adoptions in your family!maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-86048648241804472972012-04-12T14:23:23.783-04:002012-04-12T14:23:23.783-04:00This is SO well written. My niece and nephew are a...This is SO well written. My niece and nephew are adopted and I'll be passing this right along to my sister.Mindee@ourfrontdoorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497067230788150516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-36758263030069019852012-04-11T18:40:52.583-04:002012-04-11T18:40:52.583-04:00Thanks for the great comment and for the follow! ...Thanks for the great comment and for the follow! So glad to meet someone else through "open adoption bloggers!" I'm heading over to check out your space!maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671635849994739359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-71868488661768795412012-04-11T08:15:26.862-04:002012-04-11T08:15:26.862-04:00I just found you from the open adoption blogger si...I just found you from the open adoption blogger site (i'm a blogger on it too)! I loved loved loved this post! You put all those feelings I have perfectly into words. I have a friend that has recently come to the end of fertility treatments and is treating me like I have the plague right now. I guess since I'm on the happy giddy side of adoption, I was having a hard time seeing how hard that might be for her right now. Look forward to following your blog!BumbersBumblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15804403640550027122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661996260329351614.post-60794664321179645642012-04-10T23:32:02.960-04:002012-04-10T23:32:02.960-04:00Love this post! It reminds me of a great quote I ...Love this post! It reminds me of a great quote I just read about foster parenting/adopting..."the risk is great, but the rewards are greater!" Thanks for sharing, friend!:)The Smith Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13366687601448145779noreply@blogger.com